What is love? Why it occurs and gets stronger? How is it possible that at one point the man who was once the closest turns out to acquaintances? And why people in perfect relationships are capable of treason? About love has been said and written a lot. Heck, we even wrote about it enough – but be sure to write some more.
Simply because every week in the world published the results of new studies on the exciting theme, to miss which would be very disappointing.
Unavailability does not appeal, but just the opposite
A new study conducted jointly by the Interdisciplinary Center Herzliya and the University of Rochester (University of Rochester), found that uncertainty about a romantic interest of a potential partner towards you can lead to the fact that the partner will seem less sexually attractive than they could. And while some scholars have argued that uncertainty only arouses sexual interest, six new interrelated studies suggest otherwise.
“So people can protect themselves from the possibility of painful failure,” explains study co-author Harry Reis (Harry Reis). Interestingly, certainty, obviously, contributes to greater sexual desire in long-term relationships. Moreover, this is true for both men and women.
5 stages of love, discovered by psychologists
Psychologists suggest that there are at least five stages, which takes a couple. Each of these stages has different effects on the psyche and human health, said researchers from eHarmony in 2014. And at least therefore (and because this is all very interesting), they need to know.
The symptoms marked in pairs, are characterized by intense infatuation and sexual desire, including weight loss (30% of cases) and lack of productivity (39%). Biologically, at this stage in the organisms of men and women produces more sex hormones – testosterone and estrogen. As a result, over half of respondents (56%) noted an increase in libido.
Here the initial attraction gives way to desire to learn more about each other. Stage the “honeymoon” passes, and the couple starts to really build relationships. The body releases awash with neurochemicals called monoamine that speed up heart rate, increases pleasure and reproduce the effects of some drugs. The biological effect is completed by the feeling of “happy trouble”, or even passionate, but still can think about something else besides their relationship. 44% of the participants also noted the lack of sleep, while 29% of respondents told about unexplained excitement.
Installing is the other person is “right” or not, in the third stage, the couple begins to wonder how the rules correspond to their relationship in principle. Questions about the future of the Union and the formation of boundaries in relationships can lead to higher stress levels reported by 27% of those who participated in the study.
The third stage is combined with the fourth, when people open up to each other, showing who we really are. It’s not always comfortable, plus, this is not always willing partner, which explains an additional increase of the level of stress and anxiety. “This stage is associated with the concept of how we are trying to present yourself in a positive light through social media, although actually a selfie in the morning do not look as good as it says Instagram”, says the Daily Mail author Linda Papadopoulos (Papadopoulos, Linda). Open, typical for this period, caused a feeling of doubt and increased vulnerability in 15% of cases.
If the pair manages to withstand the emotional roller coaster of the first four stages, the fifth and final stage brings increased levels of trust and intimacy with a partner. At eHarmony found that 50% percent of respondents reached this stage while 23% of them reported that they became much more happy than in the first stage of the relationship. Biologically there are vasopressin – a powerful hormone released by men and women during orgasm and oxytocin, reinforcing a sense of attachment.