Do you often tend to contrast on your own to others? Do you constantly really feel forced to satisfy certain criteria, to fit yourself in a best mold as informed by society? Today’s episode is about our distinct path in life.
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Our Unique Path in Life [Transcript]
Hey everyone! Welcome to the Personal Excellence Podcast Episode 12! I’m Celestine Chua from PersonalExcellence.co.
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Today’s topic is on our distinct path in life. For everybody maturing in today’s world, I’m sure you see contrasts abound all the time. There are comparisons with grades when you’re in school … originating from educators, parents, and also your pals, your schoolmates. Lots of people are commonly comparing qualities, like who’s got better grades, more success, etc.
After that in life … you see individuals comparing things like the age people wed. This is really common in Asia. After you are married, there are contrasts in terms of your home, home you live in. Afterwards, contrasts in terms of kids, who just had a child, the amount of kids individuals have. Career-wise, as well– like who obtained what task, how much someone is earning. There are just these comparisons all the time. As well as it’s truly refined also. Sometimes, it’s not also obvious when the comparisons are being done.
This is a sensation called Keeping up with the Joneses, where there’s this continuous comparison with the individual next to you. It could be our next-door neighbors. Maybe a comparison with your schoolmates, classmates, colleagues, pals, individuals that matured with you, or even individuals online. Online, everyone feels like they’re just alongside us. We have Facebook, Instagram, as well as all that, and also we can see what people are performing in just one click.
So it’s progressively easy to see what individuals are doing. With simply a straightforward click, a basic message, a basic look, you can look through people’s timeline and also instantly see what they have been up to. And also certainly, most people would simply place their highlights in life. These days, there are countless applications, software program to edit and provide this excellent photo online.
More and also more, we’re faced with this excellent imagery of people’s lives. This raises this pressure to contrast and ask yourself, Okay, why am I not at this level? Or if you are running an online service, it’s so simple to be comparing with someone else’s metrics. Fans, numbers– all these are open for everybody to see. Or even number of remarks, the responses individuals are obtaining, and more.
Now, what I intend to share here is to remember: when you are comparing to other people, when you are really feeling negative and also reasoning, Oh he or she has this! This person is walking down this excellent track in life! Oh he or she has completed every one of these points!Just remember now that all of us have our one-of-a-kind path in life. You have your special course in life. I have my one-of-a-kind path in life. So does the random person walking on the road. We have our one-of-a-kind paths in life. All of us have our own individual backgrounds. Our very own collection of parents. Our own set of training. The locations we grew up in. The experiences that we have. These are one-of-a-kind to us as well as because of that, we are all on an unique track.
Currently I recognize that we have institutions as well as systems that have a tendency to commoditize individuals. Why do I state that? You are at a certain age and also so are your peers and also classmates because right from enrollment and matriculation in college. Everybody around you is at the exact same age as well as you move through the exact same class, the same curriculum. And since everybody goes to the very same age, there’s just this readiness for teachers, systems to boil down as well as treat individuals a lot more like stats and metrics.
That’s where everybody kind of comes to be a commodity, since it after that comes down to the qualities you’re having, the success that you have, in order to stand apart over and also past other people. After you finish, this comparison switches over to work. What pay are you getting? What task did you enter? What firm did you enter? And afterwards you end up being specified by your work, your business, your company’s brand, and the number on your paycheck.
Even though society and systems do such comparisons, and also these in a way makes us lose our humanity and sort of forget that we’re specific beings … at the end of the day, bear in mind that schools, systems– they are truly there for us to learn skills as well as to equip ourselves with understanding, to ensure that we can utilize these abilities and also knowledge to enhance our life and to enter professions that we such as. Or to move on in the path that we desire.
Placing this into perspective, keep in mind that no matter what others do or how others try to treat you or exactly how society attempts to treat you, understand that you are a distinct person with your distinct life path. That indicates there’s actually no need to compare. There’s no requirement to contrast in regards to, “Oh that individual got wed at age 28! I should try to get wed at age 28.” As well as when you are not wed at age 28, 29, 30, 31, or 32, there’s no demand to really feel poor regarding that because we are all on our distinct course.
Same for when somebody reaches a particular level of career or company success at the age of say, 25 or 30 or 35. There’s no demand to look at that and also really feel, “Oh geez he or she attained this degree of success! But I’m like five years older! I’m not even there yet.” There’s no demand to do that.
Or even say, somebody selects to have a youngster at age 30, and after that has 2 kids at age 32, as well as 3 children at age 35. There’s no demand to take a look at that and really feel, “Oh geez, I’m 32 currently. I don’t have a youngster. Should I begin to have a child?”
What’s most important is what you want on your own and also what you want for your life. Not comparing to other people and also what they have actually performed in their lives. I indicate, you can view at other individuals’s lives as a means to obtain ideas, as a way to get some representation factors for yourself, as a method to contemplate, Okay, am I on the best track in the direction of what I want for myself?
Do not look towards other individuals’s courses as this version you need to replicate, that you need to adhere to match. And afterwards feel pressured when you’re not at that same place. That’s because other individuals are on their own tracks, and you have your own track. For what it’s worth, as you’re taking a look at individuals and what they have actually “achieved,” you most likely have achieved points that individuals don’t have. That are simply distinct to you.
At the end of the day, one of the most vital point is to Create your course. Find your course. Know your worth. Not contrasting yourself with other individuals as a method to pressurize on your own, to de-humanize, or to commoditize on your own. Remembering that you are this one-of-a-kind spirit below on Earth. On your one-of-a-kind life course and your trip. As well as it’s concerning discovering what YOU want. Creating a life that you can be proud of. One that you can review and recognize that it is a life well lived.
I have a few posts for you: One is on how to quit contrasting, as well as another short article on discovering your inner self. Both relate to today’s topic, that I have actually linked in the show keeps in mind at personalexcellence.co/ podcast/12/.
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