Everyone loves Fridays and nobody likes Mondays. Monday is the beginning of a working week, hard for everyone, but for you in particular. For a month now you can not stand the thought that you’ll have to get out from under the blanket in the morning, put yourself in order and get to cursed work on traffic jams.
She is like an unloved husband – everything seems to be in order and there’s nothing to complain about, but there is no love. This is even more annoying, but fatigue accumulates and does not allow you to understand the true reasons. The correspondent of SHE found out what causes the emotional burnout and how to be saved from such a “fire”.
Help: Syndrome of emotional burnout (CMEA) is called a decrease in motivation and interest in work and life in general, while a person for a long time does not leave a feeling of exhaustion and devastation.
To admit that I got a well-paid job, with a good team and free coffee, is a bad tone. It’s the same as complaining about how tired you are of eating red caviar or relaxing in Bali. At best, you will not be understood, at worst – in a crude form, they will be asked to leave the warm office and try real physical work, “instead of shifting the papers and tongue to grind.” Nevertheless, it is those people who, in the course of their work, are forced to communicate much, and are more likely to burn out emotionally.
“Professional burnout occurs as a consequence of chronic fatigue with constant discomfort at work,” says psychologist of the Insight clinic Natalia Gulina.
“These can be physical conditions, for example, noise, narrowness, and psychological, for example, a very large number of communications connected with claims, conflicts, high expectations from oneself or from others.”
By the way, burning out can be connected not with professional activity, but with a passionate desire, which for some reason can not be fulfilled. Or with a relationship that draws all the energy and empties.
Signs of burning
According to experts, pronounced signs of the syndrome may not be. “A person can not notice for a long time what is happening to him: the mood is slightly reduced, the things that were interesting earlier seem to be uninteresting, there seems to be an occasion for joy, but there is no joy,” psychologist Alain Sagadeev describes possible signs. As a rule, at this time attention is diverted to something else – for example, you do not see that there are problems in the family, because you are constantly working, or you can not take care of yourself as you want, because you feel that you need others very much. “If you do not notice in time what is happening to you, inside the wires burn out, the energy ceases to flow, ceases to excite and please the surrounding world,” Sagadeeva added.
There are three main signs of the syndrome of emotional burnout:
1. Personal detachment. Due to long-term stress, interest to work in general, to clients, patients is lost. Nothing more can cause an emotional reaction – neither positive nor negative.
2. A constant feeling of fatigue, not completely passing after a dream or a long rest. Often this is preceded by a period of active, hard work, when one’s own needs and interests are ignored.
3. Loss of motivation. There is a sense of senselessness of their actions, it seems that there are no prospects, and you are just a cog, from which nothing depends.
From situational states (pessimism attacks happen in everyone) emotional burnout differs in time – if the splashes again give way to despondency, time to sound the alarm. “When there are thoughts that we are in the wrong place, that the work has gotten, that we have to change something, and it becomes obtrusive, we can talk about the manifestation of the emotional burnout syndrome,” says psychologist, director of the “Lad” center Alexander Zhukov.
Previously, doctors, teachers, psychologists, and sellers were included in the risk group. Now they are increasingly added to sales managers, waiters and people of creative professions, who often have to be in public. But it is not necessary to bring down everything on the specifics of the work – much depends on personal characteristics.
First,which contributes to the emergence of burnout – the lack of control over their own lives. If you do not know where you will be in a month or a year, and move to the touch, most likely, you will not be there wherever you would like.
The second follows from the first – unclear expectations from work. The decision “I’ll go where to take, and then we’ll sort it out” in most cases leads to disappointment and serious consequences.
Third – the situation at work. Here, little depends on you, but waiting, until the conflict with the bosses or colleagues is resolved by itself, often leads to burnout.
What to do?
The good news is that women, due to their natural ability to voice feelings and experiences, tend to burn out less than men. Nevertheless, the modern reality is that women often occupy a “male” post, which requires constant tension and every minute decision-making. In this case, one can not do one chatter with a friend, it is important to find a hole, stop the leakage and begin to recover.
The best prevention, according to Natalia Gulina, is her favorite diverse and emotionally charged work, the ability to alternate loads with rest and a healthy atmosphere in the team.
If the symptoms of burnout seemed familiar, experts recommend the following:
1. Give yourself pleasure.“Here we are talking about the pleasures of the most primary – not those that are associated with trying to impress or achieve recognition, but children’s, deep,” explains Alain Sagadeeva. Look at how sincerely the children are happy – the first snow, the bright sun, and the waxwood on the tree – and take an example from them urgently. Remember that you were happy earlier, imagine what can please now.
2. Do not be afraid of change. Ask yourself the question – what kind of reality would you like to see? And what can you do about it right now? “At first, the changes are internal in nature,” Alain Sagadeeva explains, “and then the world changes. The internal state ceases to provoke an external event. ”
3. Learn to communicate and switch.According to Natalia Gulina, high communicative competence – the ability to communicate correctly, and easily switch – prevents burnout. Communicate with pleasure – this will reduce the number of conflicts, and if the trouble does happen, learn to be distracted.
4. Make plans. The problem of “a lot of cases, a little time” will disappear, once you set your priorities and stop waiting for deadline.
5. Maintain a balance. Do not forget that work is just a part of life, providing us with finances and new events. Around a lot of interesting things – leave time for them.