Natalya, was the appearance of a new family member a thoughtful decision or an unexpected gift?
Scene and large families are incompatible? Years, children and work age? Star pairs aren’t strong? Singer Natalie refutes all stereotypes.
NATALIE No, this is not an unexpected gift. The fact is that, since our youngest, Anatoly, was born, literally immediately I began to be haunted by thoughts of a third baby. And they even scared them with their obsession. It was then that I was invited to participate in the “Battle of Psychics” program, where I met with Victoria Raidos, working with the so-called “kind energy”. I was interested in this area and, one might say, became a part of life. Its essence is in knowledge that was previously available to everyone, but today, alas, forgotten. You just need to remember them, thus reuniting the connection between the ancestors and descendants. So, Victoria told me that my visions are prophetic: another child wants to be born with me.
S.R. Or maybe you yourself really wanted this? NATALY Maybe so. The desire of a large, large family was so close to me! Although a few years ago it was not about me at all. It all started with two failures in a row… In addition, I’m an artist, we are not supposed to have a lot of children by status. At first I thought: thank God that at least one is. And then – and the second. And now here is the third. I really like it when the baby is in the house. Our family became completely different with him! The eldest, Arseny, in my opinion, first felt what a family is: he, a 15-year-old, realized that he had matured.
S.R. And the elders were jealous of the younger? NATALI Thank you fate that children have such an age difference: between the first and second – 8 years old, and between the second and third – 7. They deliberately waited for the baby and rejoiced at him. Arseny became the godfather of the two-month-old Wife. And the middle one, Anatoly, as before Arseny, is going to give all his treasures – toys, designers – to Zhenya. You know, my sons very competently squeezed each other. I was afraid to attach them to myself very much, to love, to grow up sissies. But no, as soon as the age came when the boy should already begin to separate from his mother, my next child was born, and everything worked out naturally.
Take your time to lose those extra pounds after giving birth. Love your body, thank it, understand that it was also not easy for him during this period. Give him a break, do not torment in the first months. It itself will tell you when it will be possible to start training.
S.R. Admit it, you thought about a girl? NATALIE I thought. Yes, everyone thought so! Another song: “I want a son, I want a daughter…” I was just wondering – what is a girl? Upon learning that there would be a boy, at first she was a little upset, and then it seemed to descend on me: but if it were a girl, it would be very difficult for both of us and herself. When I realized that I would have three boys, I found the word: “order.” And with the girl, it would seem to me some kind of chaos.
And there was a feeling that I was spared. Paradoxically, but after that song gained popularity, I became afraid that I would have a daughter. There are too many negative examples nearby, how hard it is to raise a girl for a popular mother. Here is Maksakova, Gurchenko… What is the difficulty with the girl? On the one hand, do not grow a “star”, on the other hand, do not “grow” complexes in a girl. And the three of us will be easier for the boys, and they will divide my love into three; again, this is the other gender. When I understood all this, I was relieved.
S.R. Natalia, how was your pregnancy and childbirth? Still, the third child… NATALIEI was shy, considered myself an old-born, and then I saw in the corridors of the clinic full of pregnant women of my age. And the doctors told me that giving birth to a third one at the age of 43 is now quite a common thing. My mood throughout the pregnancy was excellent, despite toxicosis, which lasted 4.5 months. But I spoke, worked on this inner happiness, with a wide smile. Especially since I learned to cope with the nausea that covered me seven times a day.
But before the birth, literally in a month, fears suddenly began to overwhelm me: if I did not, like children, my husband would remain without me, would they scold the baby that I was not there because of him. Horror! She drove away everything from herself, continued to do her exercises, meditate, and pray. And against this background, I began to ask myself a cheerful, joyful and quick birth. And so it happened! Imagine during fights, in white compression stockings and lilac slippers, she jumped on a bright lilac gymnastic ball. Already fun! And when a male doctor of enormous growth, wearing a hat with ladybugs, came into the ward, I realized that my wish had come true. I gave birth in 4 hours.
S.R. Was it difficult to perform during pregnancy? NATALI And Wife really liked it when I spoke, when I was just getting ready to leave, dyed, dressed, – at that time the toxicosis was retreating. “Wow! – I thought, when I still did not know the gender of the baby, – probably there is a girl or a guy who really likes female beauty. ” Especially Zhenya respected the hair dryer and manicure. And when she started to sing, she didn’t even remember about toxicosis.
S.R. And how soon began to speak after childbirth? NATALY Eugene was not even two months old when I went on tour to Germany. Left with the condition that the husband will remain at home with his son. Only I trust him and his mother, who also helps a lot. There were no problems with feeding, Eugene was on artificial feeding, because we excluded breast milk right away. Firstly, they didn’t want to tie him to one member of the family, secondly, I have implants, and it’s very difficult to feed with them, as I was convinced with Tolya. But Zhenya slept for six hours at night and gave me a rest after childbirth.
S.R. Is Zhenya a calm boy? NATALI Yes, and we tried to ensure that the house was calm, Zhenya can eat not only in my arms and easily fall asleep. In addition, he is the third, there are two more children in the house, therefore he is deprived of hyper-custody. I need peace of mind for all family members, so I distribute attention equally to everyone. In the house, everyone should have their own place and their own space for relaxation. By the way, esotericists advise to show the baby, brought from the hospital, his place, indicate him. After all, if the child is placed between the parents, he begins – energetically – to blame the separation of mother and father. So Zhenya sleeps all night in his bed, just sometimes, in the morning, we take him to our house, to fill up.
S.R. Having two sons, you can say that you know how to raise a third? NATALIE No, because they are all so different, each growing up – with their own lessons. On the other hand, spoiling three is more difficult than spoiling. And two – forever comparing. Three are the best option. God grant that they help each other.
And more about the boys. My view as mothers of sons has changed in relation to all men in the world. We, girls, literally from the age of three look at boys as partners, as peasants who simply must be men and be strong for you. Before the advent of sons, I did not know boys, men from the inside. And how much they, it turns out, are gentle, creative, vulnerable! Until they became the successors of the clan, in that gentle and soft period of childhood, only the mother is able to see the boy as a child and caress him.
And how my sons love when I rock them, I iron them! But the time is coming, probably in 10-12 years, when my mother should retreat, moderate her maternal tactile tenderness. The former – “children’s” – hugs, kisses are getting smaller, and the wife who can caress, still wait and wait. And the boy wants to caress! Arsenia during this period, we got a cat and began to gnaw together with the cat, and the son too. It seems to me that everything turned out well. So, this same tenderness that I discovered in my boys, it remains in all adult men, it is stored somewhere. I look at the representatives of the stronger sex and see how many of them, it turns out, are this boyish sensitive, creative left. And wives can dig out this tenderness, do not save them caresses on husbands.
S.R. Natalya, you are such a mother-mother, immersed in family life with her head. But there is also a scene – something completely different, even in something opposite – there you are different. How does it fit together in one person? NATALIE Thank you and a deep bow to my profession and to all the audience for my children, for my family. These two such different facets – family and profession – at some point began to feed each other. It would seem that there, on stage, such a gap, such freedom, such passion and youth!
And I – such a charming, passionate woman who does not belong to anyone!.. And I come home – and there this lump lies, a little man, and I plunge into a completely different life. I take this lump and shake it, turn into a mom. And all this is happiness. And on stage, and at home, and everything is inextricably linked for me. My double, it turns out, happiness. Paradoxically, wholeness has somehow grown out of this contrast. The integrity of female nature. I wish this to all women. It would seem, where do the forces come from? And they appeared from home. And for the house – from the stage. Children give me energy, I transmit it to the audience. And vice versa. Such a cycle is obtained. Therefore, I believe that the profession and the scene gave me children as well. On stage, I cured a lot of things in myself and dug up. Just like a woman.
S.R. Perhaps your husband, Alexander, is a very happy person, because men dream of contrasts, different things in one woman? NATALI Probably! But while I became such a woman, maybe at some moments he was also the most miserable… And then – the happiest! Well, I laugh, of course. And so – I really don’t know. But until I came to this, years passed. And there were searches, throwings, and, of course, casts and drifts, which wasn’t… Life is not the cover of a glossy magazine, everything is real here, everything is so reverent and vulnerable, everything can be in life. But most importantly, life is in full swing!
S.R. Natalia, you not only look great, but it seems that you are in a good mood all the time. NATHALIE It’s true. But for me, positivity, joy is a huge, hard work, it still needs to be obtained. As much as I was different internally, the profession taught me to search, search, and just dig this joy. And how important it is for a woman! You can simply put an equal sign between a woman and joy. And for so long I was looking for this, for so long I looked negatively at many aspects of life, so hard was my inner life… Again, the scene helped, where the audience saw me in a positive way. At first I just “put on” him, played. I went on stage and thought that no one knows who I really am. I was looking for: how can one be positive and joyful in life? And I found! Although negative is very convenient, it quickly gives adrenaline, and to get joy is work. But I do not stop working!