29.03.2024

Fetal memories

“A sandy deserted beach, sea, on the beach there is another person in contact with me, but his presence is implicit, more like a shadow. Behind me, along the beach are caves in the form of spheres. I find myself inside one of them, there are no obvious holes in it, while there is scattered light, dry and warm.

Suddenly I feel very stuffy, and an attack of claustrophobia begins, I urgently need to get out. I see a gap below, from the side of the sea, a wave flows through it in a stream and slowly flows back. I am puzzled as to how best I can get out – with my head or legs, so as not to get stuck. I don’t know how I got out, but I’m already on the beach, looking at the sea – cold – and I feel hostility in it, no one is swimming, and I do not want to.

“On the back of the caves there is a beach path made of boards, very crowded, all in white, you can go into every area by opening the door and change clothes.”

This dream is largely associated with the birth process.

The expert here discusses a dream that is closely related to issues of birth – in the literal and figurative sense. Of the many approaches to interpretation, this dream really pulls apart from the point of view of the biological approach.

The fact is that from the first lines of this dream its content was associatively reminiscent of a birth situation. For example: next to me, it’s like a person, but his presence is implicit, a shadow… I am inside the cave, there are no obvious holes in it, diffused light…

I feel an attack of claustrophobia, I urgently seek a way out… I choose to climb forward with my head or legs.

If newborns would be able to express their thoughts in this way, they would probably tell something similar about their birth. How similar this dream is to fragments of the dreamer’s memory of her intrauterine experience. Typing these lines, I set foot on a slippery slope, as there are quite serious studies telling us that the areas responsible for this kind of long-term memory have not yet matured in the brain of the newborn.

And there are practices based in their help to people on the belief that this experience is just remembered by a child for life, he leaves an imprint on many life states: to overcome difficulties, to feel his bodily boundaries and opportunities, to endure, to wait.

Then the dreamer gets into an unfriendly cold world, where people are all in white. Why not a delivery room?

Now the key question. Suppose a dream is about birth, and we take this approach as a fantasy version. Why does an adult woman dream of this experience many years later?

Perhaps because our universal mind thinks categorically. The birth of a child is his, his child, the first step towards autonomy. Probably, this experience pops up in the mind, responding to current life tasks in mastering one’s independence, integrity, and autonomy. I will ponder on the topic that our dreamer is now confronted with tasks similar to those of a baby: to be autonomous, at the same time to need, ask and become attached to relatives without the feeling of shame and inconvenience characteristic of adults for these natural human needs. Good luck to her.

I wonder what you dream about. Send examples of your dreams to the mai. By the way, dreams are much easier to interpret if you write the previous life circumstances in a letter to the editor, but most importantly – feelings and thoughts at the time of awakening from this dream.

Maria Dyachkova, psychologist, family therapist and host of personal growth trainings at the Training Center, Marika Khazina

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